Was reading an article earlier about footballers who've suffered from depression. I must admit there was a line that brought a chuckle. Ex player Clarke Carlisle , now PFA Chairman, admitted to trying to take his own life in 2001....when playing for qphahahaha !!! Lets be honest when you end up at that anal discharge of a club not only is your career at rock bottom but your life as well. He even played for Luton during his career yet it was having to wear that horrid blue and white that tipped him over the edge almost. Can you imagine how his family and friends probably disowned him for a time, the embarrassment was too much to take admitting that someone who they always followed, supported , and believed in had fallen so far down into the footballing gutter that it wasn't worth all the hassle. People I general in his home town crossing the road if they saw him approaching. The shame of it all.
Why did that make you laugh?
You're really disgusting, Buffalo76. Don't know how anyone could joke about someone's depression.
Quote from: Putney on July 03, 2013, 09:53:04 PM
You're really disgusting, Buffalo76. Don't know how anyone could joke about someone's depression.
I actually found the article an interesting read. I wasn't trying to mock the condition at all, though I'm sure you'll say otherwise. It was purely the irony of who Clark Carlisle was with at the time in question. Put ur toys back in ur pram there there S001.gif
Quote from: Putney on July 03, 2013, 09:53:04 PM
You're really disgusting, Buffalo76. Don't know how anyone could joke about someone's depression.
Bloody hell, let's not get carried away! This is clearly a dig at the jokers from Loftus Road & not someone's depression. I think you know that as well.
Calm down dears, it was a joke about QPR
You clearly could make it up.
There are enough jokes to make about QPR without needing to mock someone who was suicidal. Would you laugh if he was in a wheelchair? Or had cancer? I have depression and I fight it every day. It ain't funny.
You can't pass this off as a joke about QPR over-sensitive lefties.
Joking about depression, suicide and mental illness is disgraceful and unacceptable.
Poor taste.
Don't suppose Gary Speeds family had a chuckle.
Quote from: manxman on July 03, 2013, 10:36:46 PM
Calm down dears, it was a joke about QPR
Thank you sir. Someone else who understands it was purely aimed at the gutter filth and NOT aimed at mocking the condition at all.
Quote from: rhyspabsolom on July 03, 2013, 11:51:18 PM
You can't pass this off as a joke about QPR over-sensitive lefties.
Joking about depression, suicide and mental illness is disgraceful and unacceptable.
Not that I found it funny, as I didn't BUT you can pass it off as only the 'over sensitive lefties'. He meant it in light humour. If comedians can mock illnesses (name any and i'm sure one comedian at some point would have mocked it) then some chap on the street can. Like I said, all about taste and the nature that you took the joke. Must be tough seeing it all from that moral highground.....
Quote from: Fulham76 on July 03, 2013, 10:30:29 PM
Quote from: Putney on July 03, 2013, 09:53:04 PM
You're really disgusting, Buffalo76. Don't know how anyone could joke about someone's depression.
Bloody hell, let's not get carried away! This is clearly a dig at the jokers from Loftus Road & not someone's depression. I think you know that as well.
Well said sport. I actually remember hearing bout Gary Speed when i was out in the car on the Sunday. Was so shocked my stomach dropped. It was a very sad event. Can't help feeling I'm having to justify myself now though because of a few people that didn't seem to see where my comments were aimed at - qpha ha ha ha only.
Quote from: FFC1987 on July 04, 2013, 08:04:10 AM
Quote from: rhyspabsolom on July 03, 2013, 11:51:18 PM
You can't pass this off as a joke about QPR over-sensitive lefties.
Joking about depression, suicide and mental illness is disgraceful and unacceptable.
Not that I found it funny, as I didn't BUT you can pass it off as only the 'over sensitive lefties'. He meant it in light humour. If comedians can mock illnesses (name any and i'm sure one comedian at some point would have mocked it) then some chap on the street can. Like I said, all about taste and the nature that you took the joke. Must be tough seeing it all from that moral highground.....
Plenty of comedians make jokes about serious illness. If they do, they often use it as a shock factor in an overall bit about how sad illness is and how much it sucks. If they are laughing at someone who is ill or cheaply using that illness as a way of degrading someone else then they - too - are arseholes.
Suggested reading: Patton Oswalt on rape jokes - http://www.pattonoswalt.com/index.cfm?page=spew&id=167 (http://www.pattonoswalt.com/index.cfm?page=spew&id=167)
And you know better than anyone how much I love being up on my high horse, you're welcome up here any time.
Quote from: rhyspabsolom on July 04, 2013, 01:08:32 PM
Quote from: FFC1987 on July 04, 2013, 08:04:10 AM
Quote from: rhyspabsolom on July 03, 2013, 11:51:18 PM
You can't pass this off as a joke about QPR over-sensitive lefties.
Joking about depression, suicide and mental illness is disgraceful and unacceptable.
Not that I found it funny, as I didn't BUT you can pass it off as only the 'over sensitive lefties'. He meant it in light humour. If comedians can mock illnesses (name any and i'm sure one comedian at some point would have mocked it) then some chap on the street can. Like I said, all about taste and the nature that you took the joke. Must be tough seeing it all from that moral highground.....
Plenty of comedians make jokes about serious illness. If they do, they often use it as a shock factor in an overall bit about how sad illness is and how much it sucks. If they are laughing at someone who is ill or cheaply using that illness as a way of degrading someone else then they - too - are arseholes.
Suggested reading: Patton Oswalt on rape jokes - http://www.pattonoswalt.com/index.cfm?page=spew&id=167 (http://www.pattonoswalt.com/index.cfm?page=spew&id=167)
And you know better than anyone how much I love being up on my high horse, you're welcome up here any time.
Never found the ladder up!!! Do you find southpark,family guy or even arrested development funny by any chance? You know where I'm going with this.....
I usually don't get involved in these posts but have to say, it was a JOKE. For all you PC experts, get a life. It was a comment which could have been made by any comedian anywhere. Not actually that funny but definitely not worth the criticism it received..The bit I don't condone is attacking qpr or chelsea fans (or portsmouth or leeds or millwall etc etc). They are what they are. Football fans (of a sort).
Due to PC, I can hear the mods keys rattling.
Last word. It is a very difficult skill to try to be amusing in writing. I have tried on here and failed miserably so I am very careful now. 084.gif
I quite enjoyed it to be honest.
Thanks for that. When I'm too depressed and anxious to do anything other than stare at the wall for a week, when I'm fighting off feelings that my wife and young children would be better off if I was dead then I'll make sure I'm not too sensitive or PC to have a belly laugh at your joke.
The whole point of depression is that it has nothing to do with where you work or how much money you have. It's an illness. Your joke was like saying, 'Blimey, the bloke plays for QPR and earns a fortune - how could he have got cancer?'
Mods - if there was a racist joke about a black QPR or Chelsea player would you allow it?
People who say 'Oh, get off your high horse and stop being so PC' - would you feel the same if it happened to you? Course not. That's why you fell able to make jokes because you have no idea what it is like.
Meantime, try reading these:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/football/blog/2011/dec/02/the-secret-footballer-players-depression (http://www.guardian.co.uk/football/blog/2011/dec/02/the-secret-footballer-players-depression)
http://www.caughtoffside.com/2011/11/27/depression-and-mental-illness-in-football/ (http://www.caughtoffside.com/2011/11/27/depression-and-mental-illness-in-football/)
http://thefaithfulmufc.com/2010/12/17/alan-davies-a-sad-loss-to-the-world-of-football/ (http://thefaithfulmufc.com/2010/12/17/alan-davies-a-sad-loss-to-the-world-of-football/)
http://www.mirror.co.uk/sport/cricket/michael-yardy-depression-left-me-a-zombie-97248 (http://www.mirror.co.uk/sport/cricket/michael-yardy-depression-left-me-a-zombie-97248)
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-12860916 (http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-12860916)
Dom, and others that have taken some offence to this thread ....
Please, just lighten the load a little. Its got to be obvious that the poster didn't men to offend those that fight depression, or family members that have suffered as a result, in any way, so why the pack of hyenas routine?
If you don't like a thread you have three choices:
Firstly, ignore it. If you cannot ignore it, then complain to a Mod, if that doesn't float your boat then thirdly, and I wish more people would avoid this, reply to the thread and start an argument.
Personally, I try to the the first option, as complaining to myself gets me nowhere it seems, though I am also guilty of the third option at times, and so I can empathyse with those that find this distasteful and have ranted as such.
This isn't a bitch at any leftist, rightist, or centralist, or those on high horses or rocking horses, or who live in glass houses, green houses or the parliamentary ones either. (did I miss anyone?)
QPR fans. I'm pretty sure they were offended. :)
Quote from: FFC1987 on July 06, 2013, 04:45:23 PM
QPR fans. I'm pretty sure they were offended. :)
Looks like some good has come out of this thread then, nice one.
Quote from: FFC1987 on July 06, 2013, 04:45:23 PM
QPR fans. I'm pretty sure they were offended. :)
That was the idea :yay:
Quote from: Buffalo76 on July 06, 2013, 06:56:17 PM
Quote from: FFC1987 on July 06, 2013, 04:45:23 PM
QPR fans. I'm pretty sure they were offended. :)
That was the idea :yay:
Shame they don't have many!! 064.gif
This is so PC
Quote from: Logicalman on July 06, 2013, 03:01:53 PM
Dom, and others that have taken some offence to this thread ....
Please, just lighten the load a little. Its got to be obvious that the poster didn't men to offend those that fight depression, or family members that have suffered as a result, in any way, so why the pack of hyenas routine?
If you don't like a thread you have three choices:
Firstly, ignore it. If you cannot ignore it, then complain to a Mod, if that doesn't float your boat then thirdly, and I wish more people would avoid this, reply to the thread and start an argument.
Personally, I try to the the first option, as complaining to myself gets me nowhere it seems, though I am also guilty of the third option at times, and so I can empathyse with those that find this distasteful and have ranted as such.
This isn't a bitch at any leftist, rightist, or centralist, or those on high horses or rocking horses, or who live in glass houses, green houses or the parliamentary ones either. (did I miss anyone?)
Why are some moderators on here so scared of an argument (so long as it is carried out without personal attacks)?
When someone tries to make a joke out of a real attempted suicide and QPR it not surprisingly causes a reaction. Moderators should let posters respond and should not be censoring them or asking them to censor themselves by not responding.
Quote from: Apprentice to the Maestro on July 06, 2013, 11:54:05 PM
Quote from: Logicalman on July 06, 2013, 03:01:53 PM
Dom, and others that have taken some offence to this thread ....
Please, just lighten the load a little. Its got to be obvious that the poster didn't men to offend those that fight depression, or family members that have suffered as a result, in any way, so why the pack of hyenas routine?
If you don't like a thread you have three choices:
Firstly, ignore it. If you cannot ignore it, then complain to a Mod, if that doesn't float your boat then thirdly, and I wish more people would avoid this, reply to the thread and start an argument.
Personally, I try to the the first option, as complaining to myself gets me nowhere it seems, though I am also guilty of the third option at times, and so I can empathyse with those that find this distasteful and have ranted as such.
This isn't a bitch at any leftist, rightist, or centralist, or those on high horses or rocking horses, or who live in glass houses, green houses or the parliamentary ones either. (did I miss anyone?)
Why are some moderators on here so scared of an argument (so long as it is carried out without personal attacks)?
When someone tries to make a joke out of a real attempted suicide and QPR it not surprisingly causes a reaction. Moderators should let posters respond and should not be censoring them or asking them to censor themselves by not responding.
Who's been censored? Seems like most people have had their say, one way or the other on this topic.
Attracted enough views if nothing else !
A homeless,fat,black,transgender person with a limp and halitosis walks into a pub and collapses with a heart attack and dies. A drunk at the bar looks up from his glass and sees the shock on peoples faces. 'Why the long face?' he asks in a slur. The horse walks out in disgust at the slur.
Some horses just have to find offence to jump.
Quote from: Fulham76 on July 07, 2013, 10:14:47 AM
Quote from: Apprentice to the Maestro on July 06, 2013, 11:54:05 PM
Quote from: Logicalman on July 06, 2013, 03:01:53 PM
Dom, and others that have taken some offence to this thread ....
Please, just lighten the load a little. Its got to be obvious that the poster didn't men to offend those that fight depression, or family members that have suffered as a result, in any way, so why the pack of hyenas routine?
If you don't like a thread you have three choices:
Firstly, ignore it. If you cannot ignore it, then complain to a Mod, if that doesn't float your boat then thirdly, and I wish more people would avoid this, reply to the thread and start an argument.
Personally, I try to the the first option, as complaining to myself gets me nowhere it seems, though I am also guilty of the third option at times, and so I can empathyse with those that find this distasteful and have ranted as such.
This isn't a bitch at any leftist, rightist, or centralist, or those on high horses or rocking horses, or who live in glass houses, green houses or the parliamentary ones either. (did I miss anyone?)
Why are some moderators on here so scared of an argument (so long as it is carried out without personal attacks)?
When someone tries to make a joke out of a real attempted suicide and QPR it not surprisingly causes a reaction. Moderators should let posters respond and should not be censoring them or asking them to censor themselves by not responding.
Who's been censored? Seems like most people have had their say, one way or the other on this topic.
Logicalman said " . . .then thirdly,
and I wish more people would avoid this, reply to the thread and start an argument" which is discouraging responding and encouraging self-censorship.
Also, my fault, my first draft was longer and mentioned threads such as those about Dempsey which were closed because posters were having an `argument' which was to me censorship.
I've quoted was what was said first up. It's not a joke. A joke would be 'Did you hear Petrov has cancer?' 'Blimey, some people will do anything to leave Villa.' It's a crap joke and and in non-existent taste but it is a joke and an attempt at humour.
What this poster did was simply to mock someone who tried to kill himself. He said, 'Lets be honest when you end up at that anal discharge of a club not only is your career at rock bottom but your life as well. He even played for Luton during his career yet it was having to wear that horrid blue and white that tipped him over the edge almost. Can you imagine how his family and friends probably disowned him for a time, the embarrassment was too much to take admitting that someone who they always followed, supported , and believed in had fallen so far down into the footballing gutter that it wasn't worth all the hassle.'
You have no idea what nearly tipped him over the edge. QPR may well have had nothing to do with it. You were having a chuckle at someone attempting suicide and I don't care if it was an attempt at laughing at the Bitters, some areas should be left alone.
For Fulham 76 who said 'I'm sure no one is really stupid enough to genuinely believe you were having a dig at depression', how else are we meant to take it?
As for those who said complaining was 'too PC'? Please tell me. Is it the Holocaust? Hillsborough? Dunblane? Gary Speed? Kids with cancer? Is fans making monkey noises at matches too PC? Tell me, where's the line? I'll tell you where it is - it's different for everyone and people should try and understand that.
I'm happy to have the pissed ripped out of me for being bald and fat - knock yourself out. But next time I hear about someone taking the piss out of suicide I will be tempted to knock them out.
As for over-sensitive, I got laid into by people on this board for saying the Riverside Stand is a disgrace because it is so quiet. That's not over sensitive?
Crikey, just close the thread and agree to disagree. Taken to the extreme in either direction. We debated, we laughed, we cried but at the end of it we just couldn't compromise. I suggest not watching most comedians, southpark, family guy, american dad and Ricky Gervais and you won't be offended and like the admin said, if you don't like the joke, move on. If the admins think its distasteful to the masses or down right inappropriate, i'm sure they will shut it down. My only advice would be not to take parts of this board so seriously.
Quote from: FFC1987 on July 08, 2013, 01:18:38 PM
Crikey, just close the thread and agree to disagree. Taken to the extreme in either direction. We debated, we laughed, we cried but at the end of it we just couldn't compromise. I suggest not watching most comedians, southpark, family guy, american dad and Ricky Gervais and you won't be offended and like the admin said, if you don't like the joke, move on. If the admins think its distasteful to the masses or down right inappropriate, i'm sure they will shut it down. My only advice would be not to take parts of this board so seriously.
:plus one: Perfectly said.
The defence that this is edgy humour doesn't really hold does it because it is just lame and embarrassing. To compare it to Ricky Gervais and the like is to show a misunderstanding of Ricky Gervais who is, in part, making fun of this type of `joke'.
Quote from: Buffalo76 on July 03, 2013, 06:07:57 PM
Was reading an article earlier about footballers who've suffered from depression. I must admit there was a line that brought a chuckle. Ex player Clarke Carlisle , now PFA Chairman, admitted to trying to take his own life in 2001....when playing for [QPR]
One player had depression while he was at QPR. So what about all the other players who had depression while they were at other clubs? The link between depression and QPR doesn't work.
And then we get an embarrassing rant about QPR, the sort of thing we roll our eyes at when something about us being posh appears on a QPR or Brentford message board.
Quote from: Buffalo76 on July 03, 2013, 06:07:57 PM
....when playing for qphahahaha !!! Lets be honest when you end up at that anal discharge of a club not only is your career at rock bottom but your life as well. He even played for Luton during his career yet it was having to wear that horrid blue and white that tipped him over the edge almost. Can you imagine how his family and friends probably disowned him for a time, the embarrassment was too much to take admitting that someone who they always followed, supported , and believed in had fallen so far down into the footballing gutter that it wasn't worth all the hassle. People I general in his home town crossing the road if they saw him approaching. The shame of it all.
Quote from: Apprentice to the Maestro on July 08, 2013, 02:24:50 PM
The defence that this is edgy humour doesn't really hold does it because it is just lame and embarrassing. To compare it to Ricky Gervais and the like is to show a misunderstanding of Ricky Gervais who is, in part, making fun of this type of `joke'.
Quote from: Buffalo76 on July 03, 2013, 06:07:57 PM
Was reading an article earlier about footballers who've suffered from depression. I must admit there was a line that brought a chuckle. Ex player Clarke Carlisle , now PFA Chairman, admitted to trying to take his own life in 2001....when playing for [QPR]
One player had depression while he was at QPR. So what about all the other players who had depression while they were at other clubs? The link between depression and QPR doesn't work.
And then we get an embarrassing rant about QPR, the sort of thing we roll our eyes at when something about us being posh appears on a QPR or Brentford message board.
Quote from: Buffalo76 on July 03, 2013, 06:07:57 PM
....when playing for qphahahaha !!! Lets be honest when you end up at that anal discharge of a club not only is your career at rock bottom but your life as well. He even played for Luton during his career yet it was having to wear that horrid blue and white that tipped him over the edge almost. Can you imagine how his family and friends probably disowned him for a time, the embarrassment was too much to take admitting that someone who they always followed, supported , and believed in had fallen so far down into the footballing gutter that it wasn't worth all the hassle. People I general in his home town crossing the road if they saw him approaching. The shame of it all.
I wrote a huge counter response to this but thought whats the point. So much of what you said doesn't make any sense so i'll leave you with this. Your statement is lame and embarressing. I think you should watch more early Gervais like on XFM to fully understand him. Not just quote a part of him to give an extremely flawed argument some credance.
I'd advise locking the thread because this will probably get messy now....
Blimey I never quite expected the mixed response to my initial thread. For the record and maybe to put this to bed once and for all my thread was never aimed AT ALL at depression or any type of mental illness. It was aimed completely at those scummy little inbreds from up the road. Pure and simple. No doubt there'll be people saying i shouldn't involve depression etc in the joke. I'm sure not everyone will find my post here acceptable still but frankly i'm getting a bit bored of these touchy so and so's who seem to have taken huge offence in any way. ITS NOT AIMED AT YOU. OK? 049:gif 049:gif
Quote from: Buffalo76 on July 08, 2013, 05:55:58 PM
Blimey I never quite expected the mixed response to my initial thread. For the record and maybe to put this to bed once and for all my thread was never aimed AT ALL at depression or any type of mental illness. It was aimed completely at those scummy little inbreds from up the road. Pure and simple. No doubt there'll be people saying i shouldn't involve depression etc in the joke. I'm sure not everyone will find my post here acceptable still but frankly i'm getting a bit bored of these touchy so and so's who seem to have taken huge offence in any way. ITS NOT AIMED AT YOU. OK? 049:gif 049:gif
You should have left it alone, it was dropping down the page nicely. That may send the really sensitive ones right over the edge! 090.gif
For Fulham 76 who said 'I'm sure no one is really stupid enough to genuinely believe you were having a dig at depression', how else are we meant to take it?
But next time I hear about someone taking the piss out of suicide I will be tempted to knock them out.
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I stand corrected - looks like you proved me wrong!
Threatening violence as well? Nice one.
Some of you just don't get it. Buffalo may have intended no offense, and I will accept his word, but sometimes our best attempts fail miserably. I live every day with someone who suffers from depression and she would be incensed at this attempt at depression humor from someone who doesn't seem to understand the subject. I believe Buffalo was taking a poke at QPR but based on my experiences I more than cringed at the use of a real life depression confession in a joke. This is just not joke material for many depression sufferers.
BTW to call someone suffering from depression overly sensitive or too PC probably shows an utter lack of understanding of the disease. People often inadvertently mock what they don't understand but that makes it no less painful to deal with.
To be clear I am not having a go at anyone including Buffalo. I am just shedding a couple of decades of depression support experience on the subject at hand.
Quote from: BarryP on July 09, 2013, 03:00:57 AM
Some of you just don't get it. Buffalo may have intended no offense, and I will accept his word, but sometimes our best attempts fail miserably. I live every day with someone who suffers from depression and she would be incensed at this attempt at depression humor from someone who doesn't seem to understand the subject. I believe Buffalo was taking a poke at QPR but based on my experiences I more than cringed at the use of a real life depression confession in a joke. This is just not joke material for many depression sufferers.
BTW to call someone suffering from depression overly sensitive or too PC probably shows an utter lack of understanding of the disease. People often inadvertently mock what they don't understand but that makes it no less painful to deal with.
To be clear I am not having a go at anyone including Buffalo. I am just shedding a couple of decades of depression support experience on the subject at hand.
That's largely a fair enough point. The only thing I'd like to make clear is, the 'too PC' thing wasn't directly aimed at people who have depression (I assume) and saying someone is overly sensitive is justified in this case because let's face it, reading every post, this has grossly been blown out of proportion. (to some degree, I'm not slagging anyone off here, just my interpretation which clearly contradicts others views).
The last thing I'd say is, people have used having the illness or being near someone who has affected them as a reason to why this is inappropriate. Now I'm not going to dwell into mine or their personal lives BUT I know this condition very well and I've always used humour as a defence mechanism. Taking into consideration I'd like to think someone wasn't intentionally trying to hurt myself (or a loved on), hence why, I personally haven't taken offence. (I can understand if people have but as said above, I think it's been grossly misquoted at times and taken to the extreme in others and should therefore be locked to avoid further discouraging comments which obviously hurt others feelings.)
I end my June vacation a little late to come back to this?
Man, this site has really gone off the rails.
See you in August.
Quote from: HatterDon on July 09, 2013, 11:51:34 AM
I end my June vacation a little late to come back to this?
Man, this site has really gone off the rails.
See you in August.
Really? I find it endlessly entertaining. There is nothing like it on telly.