My girlfriend came over last Wednesday evening and was unimpressed as my gaze kept drifting over toward the monitor where the Brighton Fulham match was showing - without sound.
She popped to the loo so I turned the volume on (fairly low) and when she returned was even less impressed and decided to go home?
Should I have turned the football off?
No you have to watch the game. But you shouldn't have double booked yourself.
I said I had to work last minute for the Wednesday midweek game last week. You just have to sell it.
A girlfriend that loves you should also love Fulham .not a keeper that one :bump:
So you score as often as Fulham.
Quote from: ianthailand on January 30, 2021, 09:27:45 AM
So you score as often as Fulham.
Bet you score like Man City judging by your log in name
Simple —— yes
Has to be the Girlfriend as she will give you far more pleasure.
Reminded me of this song.
Sorry if link does not work. But it is 'You &me& Fulham' song. Probably sums up a dilemma a lot of us have had
https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwiZ9a22rsPuAhU9TxUIHbAHCWcQyCkwAHoECAUQAw&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DfnydmWG2a8I&usg=AOvVaw0ZvvgZ5glQFRyPlpjDBuKW
Why not both?
Quote from: 3 Cherries on January 30, 2021, 08:40:28 AM
My girlfriend came over last Wednesday evening and was unimpressed as my gaze kept drifting over toward the monitor where the Brighton Fulham match was showing - without sound.
She popped to the loo so I turned the volume on (fairly low) and when she returned was even less impressed and decided to go home?
Should I have turned the football off?
A football match only lasts 90 mins and there maybe 2 games a week.
So 3 hours a week that you cannot do something you want to do.
Id tell her to do one if she disagreed.
I was going to say you could tell her watching Fulham is good for your
mental heath during this pandemic .
But think it is probably having the opposite effect on us Fulham fans at present
COYW
Quote from: Woolly Mammoth on January 30, 2021, 09:46:25 AM
Has to be the Girlfriend as she will give you far more pleasure.
Yes but for how long? A match lasts for 90 mins..... :022:
I hate to bring this up but in lockdown should your girlfriend have even been there?
Given that the answer is yes, you need to think about your poriorities with her. If she doesn't like football then try to make sure you do not 'double date,' but make sure she knows when you are watching so as to not comprimise the relationship.
it's a shame we cannot go to live games because that atmosphere is a great way of introducing people to the game.
Quote from: 3 Cherries on January 30, 2021, 08:40:28 AM
My girlfriend came over last Wednesday evening and was unimpressed as my gaze kept drifting over toward the monitor where the Brighton Fulham match was showing - without sound.
She popped to the loo so I turned the volume on (fairly low) and when she returned was even less impressed and decided to go home?
Should I have turned the football off?
Yes. Or not had her round. Or get her to buy into football and Fulham. "my gaze kept drifting over" = you're not as important as what's on the screen. (Which is fair enough, but you're setting yourself up for trouble)
Only thing you can do is find a gf who is a fulham fan...
Quote from: Southcoastffc on January 30, 2021, 11:02:01 AM
Quote from: 3 Cherries on January 30, 2021, 08:40:28 AM
My girlfriend came over last Wednesday evening and was unimpressed as my gaze kept drifting over toward the monitor where the Brighton Fulham match was showing - without sound.
She popped to the loo so I turned the volume on (fairly low) and when she returned was even less impressed and decided to go home?
Should I have turned the football off?
Yes. Or not had her round. Or get her to buy into football and Fulham. "my gaze kept drifting over" = you're not as important as what's on the screen. (Which is fair enough, but you're setting yourself up for trouble)
Good post Southcoast. I think it is a very difficult situation but the crux of the matter is is she into football or not? From the OP my guess is not and there is not a lot you can do to change that so in future I think best to explain that although you would love to see her normally Fulham are playing and you want to watch the game. I don't think that is unreasonable. Out of all my girlfriends not one of them likes football and think my passion for it is slightly weird, but I was taken to CC by my father as a young girl and got hooked. He also tried that with my Mum but less successfully as when it started raining she wanted to go home! Needless to say it was her one and only game!
Quote from: Woolly Mammoth on January 30, 2021, 09:46:25 AM
Has to be the Girlfriend as she will give you far more pleasure.
Until you marry her!
Certainly not a keeper. More of a sub when you are most in need !
To be a bit serious - you have to be able to follow your other passions that make you the chap you are. The trade of is likely to be the hours you will spend looking around shoe shops with her in her endeavour to find the exact colour to match her new handbag !
( it's remembered pain on my part - I will be okay in a minute )
This is a serious problem that needs sorting. Important that you establish that all matters Fulham take priority. It has to be "Yes Dear " to everything else in exchange of course.
You could always look to play away from home
Not to put a nail on your coffin but I imagine if she's upset and going home because you're watching a football match then it's probably either something that's deeper routed or not just a one off.
Regardless it's probably best to consider how you may have been behaving vs what she wants. She's obviously annoyed and you're doing something wrong for her.. she obviously likes you otherwise she wouldn't get annoyed and also be in a relationship with you. You've got to find the balance. For what it's worth if it was for someone I cared about then I'd drop the football for a game and be present.. especially if your gf doesn't live with you.
Its a good thing she wants to engage with you and dropped things to leave in the sense that she wants to do more and have more from her life and a relationship. You've got to take responsibility for where you're at, how much the relationship means and how you find a balance.
Quote from: 3 Cherries on January 30, 2021, 08:40:28 AM
My girlfriend came over last Wednesday evening and was unimpressed as my gaze kept drifting over toward the monitor where the Brighton Fulham match was showing - without sound.
She popped to the loo so I turned the volume on (fairly low) and when she returned was even less impressed and decided to go home?
Should I have turned the football off?
You need to get lucky and find a suitable gf that both loves sport and in particular footie, but not a rival. Harmony reigns. Either that or make sure you don't arrange to see her when Fulham are playing (washing hair, Jury duty, older relative in hospital and needs a visit, if you get he drift) :005:
Fulham. You can always find another girlfriend, but there's only one Fulham.
You both need your own interests...and should respect that. But you really should keep Fulham fixtures clear of this sort of clash. You will lose both if you double book.
It has to be Fulham or I'd be in trouble with my wife !
Decision time, it won't improve.
You have to look at it from her point of view. There may have been other things that she could have been doing but she gave them up to be with you. And was not happy that you had not been willing to give up the football to be with her. Make a bit more of an effort next time.you could always record the game
I'd absolutely question your feelings for her. If that awful performance was still distracting you then I think you seriously need to consider your relationship!
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